Unpopular Opinion: "If you think you can have a marriage and a sex life, you're wrong."
For those going through a divorce; you didn’t ‘fail’ as a couple, you were set up to fail by society’s unrealistic expectations.
In a time, long before we began fetishising weddings and relationships on social media, marriage had nothing to do with having a ‘sex life’ in contemporary terms.
Married couples had sex, but mainly to create offspring to carry on the family name and property ownership line, not because they found each other desirably hot.
Somewhere during the last few decades however, we have taken marriage and turned it from a very practical arrangement, into a highly romantic one. In her book The Meaning of Wife writer Anne Kingston describes how an orator named Demosthene from the fourth century B.C, categorised the married wife’s one and only role.
“As he (Demosthene) put it, ‘We have mistresses for our enjoyment, concubines to serve our person and wives for the bearing of legitimate offspring.’ By the end of the twentieth century, the wife was expected to be omnisexual – to stimulate, to serve and to bear children.”
Read more here: https://www.mamamia.com.au/sex-in-marriage/